You know the old saying, “blood is thicker than water?” You adopt an older sibling group, already in their teens. You parent them as best you can considering their ages, unique individual issues, and ongoing connection to their birth family. However, in just a few short years they are adults, they move out of your home, and begin blaming you for everything. They turn against your family, and everything your family stands for.

They come into your house and begin making accusations. They belittle your parenting skills and the choices you made for them as their parent. You try to remind them that they are driving nearly new automobiles and traveled out of the country because of the opportunities you provided. The siblings suggest ulterior motives for every favor or kindness you ever showed them.

They move into an apartment together and tell everyone who cares to listen how terrible you are. You are emotionally crushed and wonder why you adopted these siblings. You thought you were doing them a favor by giving them a family.

Then, a few months later, you hear through the grapevine that they have been crying their eyes out because you haven’t called or tried to contact them. You are perplexed and really don’t have a clue what that is about. You write a long letter from your heart, explaining your anguish over the treatment that you received, and suggest an apology is in order.

You never receive an apology, but they show up on holidays and birthdays expecting gifts. They begin to act as if nothing ever happened. What would you do?


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