If you are part of a large family, one thing is for sure, you can’t get away with sneaking, lying, stealing, or anything else. Whatever a child in a large family does, there always seems to be brothers or sisters nearby to witness the act. I frequently wonder why some of my children continue to try after 100 attempts or more have been busted. One child in our home sometimes commits acts right in the plain sight of her brothers and sisters. Does she think that this time they might not tell, even though they have been tattling on her for years?

When our first sibling group was placed with us, the older sister seemed to take a lot of pleasure in tattling on the younger sister. It was almost as if she would seek out things, just so she could tattle. In hindsight, I now understand that she did this for a number of reasons.

She may have thought that she could show her loyalty to us, by tattling on her sister. She wouldn’t have known for a while if it was “safe” for her to tattle on the other children. This is because she wouldn’t know if the children would retaliate against her for tattling, or if we, the parents, would believe her. One of the big reasons I believe she tattled on her sister was while they were placed with their grandparents, the younger sister received preferential treatment, and she wanted to get even.

I only wish that we could understand the actions of our children with such clarity while they are committing them. It certainly would make parenting a lot easier.



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