http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/sneaking-and-lying-in-the-adoptive-home Blog with news and information for those who have or are adopting sibling groups. Sat, 08 Aug 2009 10:03:50 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/sneaking-and-lying-in-the-adoptive-home/comment-page-1#comment-432 lmg1567 Wed, 05 Mar 2008 23:56:11 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/03/03/sneaking-and-lying-in-the-adoptive-home#comment-432 So, what's the answer? Do we hang a sign around their necks warning others? Do we pass out information to anyone they may come into contact with? Stealing and lying is going to do more than ostracize them from the community when they get older. My son may look 12 when he's 18 and act 8 when he's 18, but legally, he will be 18 with a low-average IQ and he will GO TO JAIL if he continues this behavior. I'm at a loss here as to what his future may hold. I agree that alot of this behavior is just plain impulsive - there must be a region of their brains that is "the first to go" when alcohol is consumed in-utero. How else can we explain how we have "twins separated at birth" in our homes? Also, I can have sympathy for the fact that this is truly "brain damage" in it's finest form, but my understanding it, and dealing with it daily are two very different things. So, what’s the answer? Do we hang a sign around their necks warning others? Do we pass out information to anyone they may come into contact with? Stealing and lying is going to do more than ostracize them from the community when they get older. My son may look 12 when he’s 18 and act 8 when he’s 18, but legally, he will be 18 with a low-average IQ and he will GO TO JAIL if he continues this behavior. I’m at a loss here as to what his future may hold. I agree that alot of this behavior is just plain impulsive – there must be a region of their brains that is “the first to go” when alcohol is consumed in-utero. How else can we explain how we have “twins separated at birth” in our homes? Also, I can have sympathy for the fact that this is truly “brain damage” in it’s finest form, but my understanding it, and dealing with it daily are two very different things.

]]> http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/sneaking-and-lying-in-the-adoptive-home/comment-page-1#comment-431 condo-mom Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:57:11 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/03/03/sneaking-and-lying-in-the-adoptive-home#comment-431 Our daughter does not have these issues in full force. She has what I guess I would call a "normal" 14yo level of sneakiness and lying about small things. Of course, she's also not officially diagnozed with fasd, but she hits all the markers daily. -- Rachel<br /> Our daughter does not have these issues in full force. She has what I guess I would call a “normal” 14yo level of sneakiness and lying about small things. Of course, she’s also not officially diagnozed with fasd, but she hits all the markers daily. — Rachel

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