The first sibling group that we adopted was two sisters who also had an older sister placed with an aunt. It was almost 12 years ago that our daughters came to live in our home. Now our adopted daughters are all grown up, and the older of the two sisters has two children. That’s right we are now proud grandparents.

Yesterday, our oldest granddaughter turned two years old. There was quite a gathering at our older daughter’s house for the birthday party. You see we maintained an open relationship with our daughters’ family and especially their older sister after we adopted them. The girls were seven and 13 when they came to live with us, so they had a significant bond with their older sister and their family.

It felt great to see these three sisters together discussing their jobs, their college classes, their homes, and their futures. Their families who love and care about them were there, chatting amiably, forming the perfect adoption triad. How wonderful for our granddaughters to have so many grandparents to love them and help care for them.

How far they have all come and how much they have all changed over the past 12 years. There wasn’t any alcohol, any drugs, any lewd discussions, and everyone was dressed in clean, fairly modest clothing. Our grandchildren are clean, healthy, happy, and well dressed.

Have you wondered if you could have any influence on older children if you were to adopt them? Do you think that maybe it is too late, that maybe who they are is already set in stone? Do you believe that older children should be split up for adoption, so they won’t remind each other of their past and bring out the worst in each other?

The older sister was 13 when she moved in and 15 when we adopted her. Not only can you influence an older child’s values, you can help to change the course of that child’s future. You can help to stop the cycle of abuse and neglect that can pass down through generations. In an open adoption, you may also help to influence the future of birth family members.

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