At the Christian school that I attend, the eighth graders in my class are taking a social skills class during the first period of the day. This class focuses on building solid foundations for learning and using proper social behavior. It also focuses on developing good moral character, manners and etiquette. One of the neat things about this class is the boys have to practice their manners at lunch by pushing in the seats of the girls in my class. We are also learning proper table manners, social manners and verbal manners.

No matter the age of your adopted sibling they will follow your example as the older sibling. As they see the older sibling practice proper social skills they in return will more then likely mimic you. If your family has or is adopting a toddler or older child the chances of them being exposed too proper social skills is probably minimal if even at all. Starting them off as early a possible learning proper etiquette is very important.

As a teen it is really hard for me not to say such words or phrases as “ya,” and “nope” when my parents or teachers ask me a question. I have to work on getting in the habit of saying “yes and no ma’am” and “yes and no sir” to show them respect. Also, words like “please”, “thank you”, and “you are welcome” are very important rather then saying, “Give it to me!” This was the hardest for me to learn and I still struggle a little with it but getting in to the habit of using proper manners is respectful and will teach your younger siblings the importance of respecting adults.

Using proper table manners is another area that I struggle with from time to time. On occasion I find myself putting my elbows on the table. Old habits die hard. When I am hungry it is very tempting to start to eat before everyone else has joined the table. Unless an adult has given you permission to start eating before everyone else, it is polite to wait until everyone is seated at the dinner table so that everyone can begin eating at the same time. The list can go on and on such as placing your napkin in your lap before beginning to eat and not talking with your mouth full of food is another. Sharing in the conversation with your parents is also very important. Remember, those little eyes are watching you.

Manners outside the home should be used often. Opening the door for people you see coming in your direction or offering your seat to an elderly person or expecting mother says a lot about your character. Be an example to your sibling by doing the right things and using proper social skills.

Other links:
Teaching Your Child Manners