http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/ignore-sneaking-because-of-fetal-alcohol Blog with news and information for those who have or are adopting sibling groups. Sat, 08 Aug 2009 10:03:50 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/ignore-sneaking-because-of-fetal-alcohol/comment-page-1#comment-297 condo-mom Wed, 05 Mar 2008 09:22:06 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/03/04/ignore-sneaking-because-of-fetal-alcohol#comment-297 Yes, well we are trying to figure out what adulthood will look like around here. "If you can maintain a positive relationship with the child then self-esteem should rise and shame should begin to diminish." Is this a really terrific thing for someone who consistently makes very poor judgments? Should she feel GREAT about her decisions and CONFIDENT that she is doing just fine, as she is going to-wherever-in a-handbasket? I wish she had just Enough good judgment to ASK for some input before making (or falling into) a decision that will take her south. And if she can't come up with even THAT level of good judgment, perhaps a little LESS self-confidence will push her to ASK trusted people for input? Believe me, I WANT the positive relationship with her so she will Trust and Ask -- but she seems to believe that a positive relationship means she is Doing Great and Doesn't Need Help. Sorry, I know I'm yelling -- kinda low on self-esteem here, any input? -- Rachel<br /> Yes, well we are trying to figure out what adulthood will look like around here. “If you can maintain a positive relationship with the child then self-esteem should rise and shame should begin to diminish.” Is this a really terrific thing for someone who consistently makes very poor judgments? Should she feel GREAT about her decisions and CONFIDENT that she is doing just fine, as she is going to-wherever-in a-handbasket? I wish she had just Enough good judgment to ASK for some input before making (or falling into) a decision that will take her south. And if she can’t come up with even THAT level of good judgment, perhaps a little LESS self-confidence will push her to ASK trusted people for input? Believe me, I WANT the positive relationship with her so she will Trust and Ask — but she seems to believe that a positive relationship means she is Doing Great and Doesn’t Need Help. Sorry, I know I’m yelling — kinda low on self-esteem here, any input? — Rachel

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