Comments on: Can You Influence Who Older Adopted Children Will Become? http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil Blog with news and information for those who have or are adopting sibling groups. Sat, 08 Aug 2009 10:03:50 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: John http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil/comment-page-1#comment-23 John Fri, 19 Oct 2007 19:20:37 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/19/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil#comment-23 The idea that if you haven't had the first three years with your child, you are not likely to have any real impact is widely held and really wrong. Yes you can have a dramatic impact on teenagers, but as you say Julia, if they want to let you. <br /> <br /> My kids came home in individual pacements between 9 and 13. The result so far? Three are HS graduates, one gets his diploma in June. One in college and one with a vocational certificate. None were likely to make it through HS in the system, or with their birth parents. Super parent? Hardly, but a family and parent that belongs to them. Their values are very similar to mine (except fot their taste in music). John The idea that if you haven’t had the first three years with your child, you are not likely to have any real impact is widely held and really wrong. Yes you can have a dramatic impact on teenagers, but as you say Julia, if they want to let you.

My kids came home in individual pacements between 9 and 13. The result so far? Three are HS graduates, one gets his diploma in June. One in college and one with a vocational certificate. None were likely to make it through HS in the system, or with their birth parents. Super parent? Hardly, but a family and parent that belongs to them. Their values are very similar to mine (except fot their taste in music). John

]]> By: MamaS http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil/comment-page-1#comment-22 MamaS Fri, 19 Oct 2007 16:11:07 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/19/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil#comment-22 Julia - Your goals for your daughter were my goals for my daughters (and I got mine as toddlers). With the oldest, all three goals were achieved plus she chose to go on to college and marry before having children. <br /> With the youngest - she got a high school diploma and 5 years later a PCW certificate but she has yet to use either to get a job. Julia – Your goals for your daughter were my goals for my daughters (and I got mine as toddlers). With the oldest, all three goals were achieved plus she chose to go on to college and marry before having children.
With the youngest – she got a high school diploma and 5 years later a PCW certificate but she has yet to use either to get a job.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://siblings.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil/comment-page-1#comment-21 Nancy Spoolstra Fri, 19 Oct 2007 14:13:14 +0000 http://adopting-a-s.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/19/can-you-influence-who-older-adopted-chil#comment-21 Great post, Julia, and a big coming from me ... because at this point there is no indication I influenced Amy at all, and she was a toddler when she came. So much has to do with what the kid wants to absorb. Great post, Julia, and a big coming from me … because at this point there is no indication I influenced Amy at all, and she was a toddler when she came. So much has to do with what the kid wants to absorb.

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