Birth Sibs

November 5th, 2013

My mom and I made the 4 hour trek to take Pepper to see her birth siblings. (Technically they are half-siblings. I don't think it matters to them or us!)  Our last visit several years ago was a little tricky because both Pepper and her sister were in a difficult time in their lives. It just wasn't the family reunion my daughter hoped for. I think it was also very hard for her seeing the challenging life her sister had.  It was a couple years ago and it was a "getting to know you" visit. This visit, however was different. One thing that made a huge difference was that in the time since that meeting, we'd all three corresponded on Facebook and we'd occasionally heard from the youngest brother too.  (Pepper… [more]

Introducing: Tinker

January 20th, 2013
Categories: Meet the Family

Tinker Xmas 2012When our little ones arrived, they immediately got nick-names.  This, mainly, was to protect their identities; by referring to them by their nick-names in conversations amongst ourselves, someone overhearing could not determine whom we were speaking about.  We live in a city but it's a "small world," and the kids have a lot of extended family nearby. TInker was the exception.  She got her nickname because she earned it. She was an adorable and hefty 21 month old; as a consequence, walking was a lot of trouble so she spent most of the day scooting around on her bottom and messing with anything she could reach.  She had little interest in toys, but the outlet covers, door stops, and and bits… [more]

Love Thursday – The Blitz

October 25th, 2012

DSCN6888Oh yes, we call him the Blitz.  He uses his heat seeking powers to finding the only clean room in the house, run straight to it, and leave it in a disheveled heap in only moments.  And yet, we adore him. He has a terrible temper and doesn't seem to know he's one of 5 children; at 3 years old, he alone is the center of the universe.  Yet this bundle of tantrumming trial is also the biggest love-bug in the place.  Several times a day he says, "Mommy, I love you."  A snack or a drink or a regular meal is met with "Thank you" in a tone that implies something completely unearned and unexpected has been gifted him.  Any time… [more]

The Littles and the Bigs

August 21st, 2012
Categories: Meet the Family

It is time to re-introduce the family.  Everyone is growing up so fast.  I won't have a picture of everyone, however.  It turns out that it is really hard to squeeze 7 people into one photo. We have a few but they don't translate to "blog" at all!  307438_2321007552396_1465793572_32584224_3127814_n( So what you have here is Sunshine, Tinker, me, Dear Hubby and the The Blitz.) Now for the introductions!  First "The Bigs."   Not shown in the photo is our oldest, much cherished and long longed-for.  We call her Pepper because she is a spitfire and she loves Dr. Pepper.  Pepper will be 16 in September; she's an artist of merit, a fantastic cook, a wonderful student and all-round good girl.  She was adopted… [more]

Characters from Oz plus a Belly Dancer

November 3rd, 2011

Halloween 2011It has to be said -- they're beautiful.  You got it -- it's "Love Thursday." When we set out to form our family through adoption, we did not think about ethnicity.  I think we both assumed a child would look like all the other babies in our families -- white.  Yet when we began to educate ourselves about adoption, we realized that we did not care about the color of our children's eyes or hair.  We did not need to have kids who shared our cultural identity or ethnic background. We began to explore what interracial adoption was all about and what it would mean to us and our families.  We started learning about our responsibility in bringing in kids from another… [more]

The Triple Threat and the Fab Five

June 29th, 2011

fab fiveWe're nickname people.  There I said it.  I know some people are opposed to it but it is part and parcel of our family.  When our three "littles" came, we called them alternately, "The Littles" and "The Triple Threat," because together, they are an awesome display.  They are like three wrestlers wrestling, or three puppies climbing all over each other. They are just close enough in age to play together well, even though our 4-year-old has the most stamina, our 3-year-old is the wildest and our 2-year-old rarely understands the game but goes along gamely anyway.  They are fun to watch and hysterically funny.  And they are definitely, often, enclosed in the sibling bond bubble. When they first came, we dubbed them quite… [more]

“Nature” Takes Over

April 28th, 2011

Littles adoption dayIn the debate over "nature versus nurture," I've always been of two minds. As an adoptive mom of two who were not related to each other, both their similarities and their differences were striking. I don't think they are fundamentally more different from one another than I am from my full-blooded sister, and they are a lot alike. Now that they are young women, I am struck by how alike all our voices are; if we are speaking off-camera on a video tape, it's not that easy to figure out which of us is talking. I find this completely humbling and amazing. I can see their "natural" tendencies in their response to stress… [more]

Anniversary thoughts

May 31st, 2007
Categories: Meet the Family

wedding flowers Today is my 27th wedding anniversary, and I can't help but compare it to when my parents celebrated their 25th. (Only because they didn't have a big celebration for their 27th.) I was their youngest child and I was already an adult - 20 years old. They didn't have anyone living at home with them anymore. I remember going out with extended family to a restaurant as they opened up gifts that were made of silver. I, on the other hand, have two who are grown and gone, but still have an 18 year old, 14 year old, two 11 year olds, and a 6 year old at home. It's not that I started having children that much later than my… [more]

She’s home!

March 16th, 2007

copyright Heidi H. 2007 M. and B. Just had to share our extended family's joy with all of you that our new niece, Makenna, is home! She arrived with her parents late Wednesday night a bit tired and jetlagged but every bit as beautiful as you saw in her previous pictures. As we were anxiously waiting, a woman who had been on the same flight and saw her brothers holding a "Welcome Home Makenna! We love you!" sign, walked past and said, "I already saw her on the plane and she's beautiful!" Makes me cry all over again just typing it. Her mom said she is a "Momma's girl" which I personally think is a great thing to be! Makes that mother/daughter… [more]

The most beautiful baby around

March 8th, 2007

copyright Kelly H. 2007 M.H. I know it isn't just hormones...these pictures made me cry this morning when I pulled them up on my email. I wrote a post here about Makenna, my new niece who will be coming home from China next week with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law. I just got pictures this morning from my brother-in-law and I think she is the most beautiful baby in the whole world! She is doing very well and even gave her new mom kisses! I can hardly wait until she is home and can meet her new cousins! Just wanted to share the happiness in our extended family! copyright Kelly H. 2007 M. with B.